Firstly I would say this is highly untimed post. I’m married. I’ve the love of my life now. In fact that love has become my life. so I don’t really need to think about this. But the thought process about “real love” has started evolving in my brain when I saw Valentine celebration my friends had. To be precise my bachelor friends.
Everyone defines Love in own ways. Everyone compares it with different things, mostly the purest kinds. Everyone tries to emphasize that love is the purest of feeling. Even the writers, poets and great philosophers underline the word “Pure” when it comes to describing love. However, no one really defines the term “pure”.
When I think of love, I tend to think on the purity part of it. As every great philosopher says, love is only love. There is no lust involved in it. Do you agree with this? I don’t. I was in love in my teenage with a very sweet girl. We always termed our love as pure love. But I must confess that secretly I was attracted to her body as well. I always wanted to hug her, kiss her and do all the things a male would do to a female. Though I did never tell her about my feelings cause I always believed “Love has to be pure. There is no place for lust in it”.
But as I grow older, wiser and mature; I realize that lust is a very natural tendency in every human being. May it be a male or a female, they both are attracted to opposite gender and they all have sex on their mind. The only thing is they fear the social norms. This may appear to be a very generalized statement from me but you can ask your mind if you never thought of sleeping with the guy / girl you are dating. I’m sure no one will have the answer “No. I never thought”. Some people might not have thought of sex but everyone wants to do little romance with his/her partner.
So is it wrong to have these thoughts on mind? No. Not at all. I will say there is nothing wrong in the thoughts. The nature has divided us in male and female. And it has naturally given us the tendency to attract and get attracted. All I will say, if you feel like doing something, just ask your partner. Chances are he/she might be thinking the same.
